Trees Talk: Have you listened?

You can talk to the trees. Well, you can talk to anything. But trees will answer back. It’s true. However, you will have to quiet your mind enough to listen. That’s what I was told at the top of the steep climb to Richardson Grove State Park, CA. I stood about ten yards in front [...]

Joy is life’s rainbow: Trauma Phase 2

"No, I haven't written this week," I told Geeta, "How's it going for you?" Six weeks after the fires that devastated parts of the wine country, I once again deflected the conversation away from me. Geeta is my writing accountability buddy in India. We talk weekly to discuss what we've accomplished and our goals for [...]

By | December 8th, 2017|Healing, Joy, Loss, Trauma, Triggers|1 Comment

How Do You Maintain Joy in the Face of a Firestorm?

(This photo is of a leaf found 10 miles from the Wine Country Firestorm) "Has life gone back to normal for you?" This is what I was asked a number of times three plus weeks after firestorms ravaged lives, homes, pets and property here in the Wine Country of Sonoma and Napa and 3 surrounding [...]

By | November 9th, 2017|Facing Fear, Joy, Loss, Trauma|0 Comments

Shame is Like a Mushroom

The day before I was to speak on the radio about the violence in my past marriage, I found myself huddled on the floor crying. "Why on earth do I want to share my story? How will this benefit anyone?" I thought. It came to me, after I blew my nose and texted my support [...]

By | March 3rd, 2017|Facing Fear, Letting Go, Remove Obstacles, Shame, Transition|0 Comments

My Connie Compare: Losing the Gremlin

I've always struggled by comparing myself to others. As a little girl, I noticed which girls did better cartwheels. Later, I thought it was unfair that boys seemed interested in other girls but not me. As an adult, it was not much different. Who can stretch farther in yoga poses or has a great income as [...]

By | November 8th, 2016|Comparison, Inner Voice, Triggers|0 Comments

Vows, Rings and Happiness

The ring was still in my drawer, divorce long final, years of grieving and letting go under my belt. So WHY was I dreaming that I was again (still?) with the man who has not been my husband for 12 years? I had just returned from an amazing trip to Guatemala. I’d been home for [...]

By | September 21st, 2016|Divorce, Letting Go, Loss, Ritual, Triggers, Vow|5 Comments

To Bond or Cave TIme?

  Oh, be quiet! Yes, I said, “Be quiet.” Ok, I didn’t mean YOU. Not the you that you call “I.” But your mind you. That constant chatter in your head, the ongoing commentary and evaluation of everyone and everything around you. You know, that nattering! How often do you let yourself be quiet? Other [...]

By | August 4th, 2016|Hormones, Quiet Mind, Relationship|0 Comments

It Takes Two to Tango – One Must Follow

Three Life Lessons Gained from Following After a lifetime of leadership roles from camp counselor to entrepreneur, the lessons of Argentine tango have taught me the joy of following. Following in dance, as in life, has many of the same aspects as the feminine principle; responsiveness, flow, receptivity, intuitiveness, expressiveness and creativity. It also offers [...]

Joy at the Death Bed

My Uncle Vic is dying like he lived – quietly, gently, at home surrounded by people who love him. When I put my hands on Vic’s head he moans a satisfying sigh. “I’m ready,” he had told had his wife, his children, his hospice workers. He was clear that he was at peace, felt complete, [...]

By | April 27th, 2016|Death, Family support, Healing, Joy, Letting Go|2 Comments

How to Bag a Rat: Clearing Obstacles to Joy

What big obstacle are you facing or fearing? Here's how to bag your own rat. There was a giant rat in my yard as big as a cat! It rambled around on the lawn like it owned the place. I was horrified and considered getting out a hatchet and well….you can imagine. When I went [...]

By | January 22nd, 2016|Facing Fear, Remove Obstacles, Transformation|4 Comments